Friday, January 31, 2014

Prelude


Prelude

This is the continuing story of two previously sane adults in their early sixties who, never having gone camping, decide to retire, sell their home and all its possessions, buy a large, expensive and complicated Recreational Vehicle (RV) Motorhome and spend the next two years traveling all over North America with a skittish and paranoid dog named Daisy.  (It doesn’t faze us in the least that neither of us has any mechanical aptitude either.)

Our son and daughter are sharing an apartment in southern California, we both miss seeing them as often as we used to and this will be a terrific way to visit them more often as we continuously go back and forth between their area and The Great Outdoors.  We are fortunate to sell the house quickly last July with the proviso that we can rent it from the new owner until the end of December. Although both still working, we are convinced we can empty out our entire forty years of accumulated treasures in time to be on the road by December 1st. A leisurely drive down the east coast to Port Canaveral, Florida, a four day Disney cruise followed by five more days in Disney World at the mother of all RV Resorts, Fort Wilderness, and finally plenty of time to meander out to Orange California, just in time for Mary Ellen to do some Christmas shopping with our daughter while my son and I watch the last weekend of NFL football before the playoffs.  What can possibly go wrong?

We’re certainly not worried because We’ve Done Our Homework. Or at least I have for both of us. We’ve visited RV shows, read a stack of books from Amazon about being new RVers and what to expect, picked out a good dealer in our area and at the country’s largest RV show in Hershey, Pennsylvania, pick out our dream house on wheels, a thirty-seven foot Miramar 34.2 by the RV manufacturing giant Thor. The fact that it is a brand new model for 2014 and most Thor dealerships aren’t even familiar with it yet should set off alarm bells for us but too late – we’re in love with our new toy, the daydreams of doing the Jack Kerouac thing (only in a more luxurious fashion) fill all our waking thoughts and the overall allure of a Big Adventure have completely blinded us to reality.

By November 1st the storm clouds are gathering. Our RV had to be special ordered with the dealer assuring us it will be here in time for our planned departure date but now phone calls to check on its progress are getting more and more vague answers. There are only two of us to go through every room, every closet and cabinet, the cellar and the attic all of which are stuffed to the max with items which should have been jettisoned decades ago. By Thanksgiving, the roof falls in on all our plans. The RV will not be in until mid-December, so that is the end of any leisurely driving anywhere (although we still fly down to Florida to go on our cruise or else we forfeit the entire prepaid trip.) Our house is empty of all furniture and necessities so a generous old friend of ours graciously puts us up for a week.  As the big day draws closer we are so exhausted, disappointed and frightened (we won’t have the time we hoped to learn how to use the RV or even take it out on the road for a test drive) that when it finally arrives were in complete denial of the situation we are in.

On a cold, dark Monday evening in mid-December, I finally back the RV into our driveway and we alternate the next few days trying to pack it, give tours for friends and neighbors and finish sorting the last few items remaining in the house. Our timetable is completely shot, we have to keep pushing the departure date back further and further until on the night of December 18th, we realize that we must be on the road tomorrow or we’ll miss Christmas with our kids…


Dec 19th

We are up at 5 AM to finish emptying the house, packing the last of the items that we’ve decided are essential to living on the road and getting rid of the final few pieces that haven’t made the cut. We have to be in Orange, California (over 2700 miles away) by the afternoon of December 24th if we are to spend Christmas Eve and Day with the kids, a trip that if not completed on time will be a disaster as far as  Mary Ellen is concerned. Towards the afternoon we have given up any hope of sensible and orderly packing and are literally tossing things into garbage bags and then into the RV. By the time we actually pull away from the house at 5:30 PM (it’s already dark) we are both so exhausted and frazzled that we don’t notice that the interior of our beautiful new motorhome looks like a cross between a World War II submarine heading out on patrol and an RV that looks like thirty illegals used it to sneak across the border.

We drive down Interstate 95 as far as possible before succumbing to complete exhaustion in a rest area (not considered the smartest thing to do by experienced RVers who know these are crime hotspots) near Fredericksburg, Virginia. We’re slightly relieved to see five other RVs parked there apparently for the night and being too destroyed to think logically, merely go back to the bedroom and collapse on top of the bed in our clothes, passing out instantly.

Dec 20th

We sort of know how to turn on most of the lights, the refrigerator is working and our little furnace has kept us warm all night so despite having spent the night in our clothes we awake full of hope for our first full “day” on the road, little knowing that we are in the same position as the passengers on the Titanic. We have no food with us but one of our neighbors has baked us a loaf of bread and a seeming endless supply of brownies which we have for breakfast, and lunch and dinner and…well that’s about all we ate for the first three days.

Heading south we get through North Carolina and in the early afternoon are in South Carolina, when Mary Ellen feels sorry that I have to do all the driving so she confidently announces that she’ll take the wheel for a while.  Being conscious that this is a new age of gender sensibilities (and having spent a lot of time driving cars, tractors, buses, tractor-trailer combos while the largest thing Mary Ellen has ever driven is a van) I not only agree but encourage her to give it a try. It’s a straight shot on a not-so-busy Interstate where she can just stay in the right lane – what can go wrong? Despite having been married nearly forty years, I fail to notice the tell-tale signs that she is more nervous than I expected her to be and instead I give in to my drowsiness and pass out in the passenger seat.

It seems only a moment that I’m asleep when a grenade goes off right outside my window; at least it sounded like one. Some yahoo state road worker was driving a “batwing” grasscutter (so called because the blades are housed in two platforms that raise and lower on both sides of its driver.) He decides to raise the wings and take a shortcut by driving on the shoulder of the road just as Mary Ellen gets sandwiched between him and a huge tractor trailer rig on her left. The explosion I hear is the destruction of our right side mirror assembly. A call to the South Carolina state police lets us know that there are no injuries;  they take our information and tell us they’ll call us if they need to but that we might as well just continue on. But now we have no blind-side mirror.

We use our iPhone to locate the nearest Camping World and although they don’t have anything resembling a replacement, they manage to rig up something to keep us going. We’ve lost three hours which we can’t afford to do so off we go again. Thank God for the Great State of Alabama. We’ve just crossed the state line after dark and there is another clean, safe rest stop. The previous night’s act is repeated:  passed out, in our clothes on top of the covers on our king sized bed. 

Dec 21st

The winter solstice – only three more days left and California is still over 2000 miles away. We have  a small dog (Daisy) who is skittish to begin with but having watched the only home she’s ever known be disassembled in front of her and now having been thrown into a smaller, moving house with things falling off shelves and boxes crashing to the floor on certain turns, she has retreated to the fetal position under the dashboard beneath Mary Ellen’s feet (I’m driving again) and as far as we can recall has not eaten nor emptied her bladder since we left the house.

Today we plan on making real time and head confidently across Alabama into Mississippi. Along with Daisy, we are towing a Jeep Wrangler behind us (for all of our future adventures out west.) The tow bar setup is fairly complicated but we hooked it up at the house, it worked like it was supposed to so we don’t even think of it when we pull in for gas. I fill the RV with over 70 gallons (it holds 80) and hopping back in I start it up and begin turning out of the station we’re in – only to realize I can’t make the turn. The curb is too high to drive over and I can’t backup or it could severely damage the Jeep’s transmission because of the way it is configured to the towing apparatus. We realize we have to uncouple the Jeep, back it away from the RV,  back the RV up, then re-couple and we’ll be on our way. Now to further complicate things we have a Brake Buddy ( a device which most states now require. It sits on the floor of the Jeep driver’s seat and whenever the RV’s brakes are applied, a mechanical arm pushes the Jeep’s brake pedal to avoid jack-knifing.)  Soooo, after disconnecting the Brake Buddy, Mary Ellen hops in the Jeep, turns the key and – nothing, because the battery is dead. Not having time to read the directions, I didn’t realize that “Buddy” has to be unplugged when the RV isn’t running or else it will drain the Jeep’s battery. I tell her to stay in and I start rocking the Jeep back and forth to get some momentum; then I begin pushing it up the slight incline on which it is hemming us in, all the while recalling the torn meniscus I was rewarded with the last time I tried to push a car by myself.  Now,  if I saw a 63 year old fat man trying to push a 3700 pound jeep up an incline, I would definitely at least try to help. The gas station we are stuck in is very busy with lots of good old boys zooming in and out of there in their pick-ups  but not once does anyone so much as offer to help. Maybe it was the New Jersey plates.

But Sisyphus like I survive my ordeal and after a half hour, AAA shows up to get the Jeep started, we hook everything back together and head north for Memphis beneath a sky blackening by the minute.  By the time we cross the Mississippi around 6PM, Mary Ellen is scaring the hell out of me by saying it looks  exactly like it did just before a tornado almost got her and our daughter in Missouri  a few years back.  I console myself with the logic that tornados don’t occur in December – I hope.

Now down south, they do their road construction projects a little differently than us Yankees do. Apparently, if they have to fix 31 miles of road, they shut down the entire 31 miles until the project is done. So around half an hour after entering Arkansas, we find ourselves in the Traffic Jam From Hell as three lanes of heavy commercial and auto traffic are squeezed into a single, narrow lane with concrete barriers on both sides. As we enter the gauntlet, the heavens open up with one of the longest and most intense downpours I’ve ever seen. It only slows things even more and at one point we don’t move for over forty-five minutes. Of course I have the wipers on high which is barely keeping the windshield clear and that’s when they decide to stop working. At first I thought they’d literally blown off but Mary Ellen bravely volunteers to get out and find out what happened. The have become stuck below the windshield and after she frees them up, gets back in the RV looking like she just went swimming in her clothes. But at least we have our wipers working again – until they start getting out of sync and then stop for good. Out she goes again but this time they have failed completely. Since we can’t pull over in the dark and the monsoon, we just struggle along wiperless – for another 173 miles.

Now for this night we had made reservations in an actual RV Park which will have full hook-ups (electric, water and sewer) so we won’t be living like animals for a third straight night. When we finally find it, it’s dark, scary looking and muddy but we have no choice so in we go.  I find the spot assigned to me, get the RV and Jeep into it and even plug it in to the electric (our first time “hooking up” to anything – we’re real  RVers now!) But the storm, the wipers, the incident with the Jeep’s dead battery and  the destruction of our mirror all dampen our enthusiasm, as well as the fact that we haven’t seen the sun since several days before we left. So, once more, onto the bed in our clothes – it’s been three days since either of us had a shower or changed  or had anything more substantial than Elise’s brownies to eat. I think of all the well-wishers back in our neighborhood who saw us off, especially the one or two that hoped that someday they also could bravely hit the road to excitement like we’re doing. Hoping for their sake that Elise hasn’t lost her recipe for brownies and that somehow we’ll survive this ordeal, we pass out once again. And we’re still nearly 1700 miles from Christmas with the kids.

Dec. 22nd

In the morning light, the RV park we’re in doesn’t seem as disquieting as it appeared the night before. Not wanting to offend Mary Ellen with the stench I’m about to create, I schlep over to the campground’s communal bathroom, expecting the worse. Instead, I find a combination men’s room/showering facility that looks like it is used for surgery it is so spotlessly clean.  I even consider getting us both to take an extra few minutes to shower and change but realize the futility of suggesting to Mary Ellen that she take a shower in a communal bathroom nestled in the Arkansas woods. On top of the cleanliness, the owners of the park pipe a radio program into the place which must be fine at other times but this being a Sunday morning at 6AM just west of Little Rock, I’m treated to a religious talk show. The format is people calling in to tell about how they’ve been changed by reading the bible and the caller is a man whose daughter has recently died. So here I am straining to move my bowels of four days worth of treasure while listening to some poor guy weeping as he tells how is teenage daughter hung herself because her parents discovered she had been “sexting” pictures of herself to a guy in her high school.

But little do I know that our luck is about to change for the better. An hour after leaving our first campground, the sun comes out, we cross into Oklahoma and witness one of the most spectacular landscapes we’ve ever beheld. The monsoon of the previous night apparently hit the Sooner State also and was quickly followed by an arctic blast of freezing air and now Oklahoma is a literally dazzling landscape of silver and white. For our fellow easterners who’ve never had the pleasure of driving through Oklahoma, you may be surprised to learn that the state is not just an endless flat sea of prairie grass. The eastern part of Oklahoma is made up of tree-covered rolling hills and now, having shed their leaves, every branch, every shrub, seemingly every blade of grass and ground is a stunning silver. We drive for hours through our own sparkling Narnia with a cloudless, deep blue sky for a backdrop and take it as a sign that our persistence has been rewarded.

But something must be done about our personal hygiene so not knowing how to work anything in the RV yet, we decide to stay in a hotel that night. If you are ever on the road and need a decent place to stay, consider the Drury Hotel chain. How they can do what they do for the relatively low price they charge is a mystery to us. We treat ourselves to a reservation for a night in Amarillo, Texas and even make one for the Drury in Flagstaff, Arizona. From there it will be non-stop to California. The Drury in Amarillo assures us it has plenty of room for the RV-Jeep combo and the Drury in Flagstaff has one spot where we can park that they will seal off with traffic cones to make sure there is room for us. Yeah, right.

The frigid air has hit Amarillo and the reservations office was correct, there is a lot of parking and they do take dogs. I pull the RV into a corner to take up as few spaces as possible, and in we go for dinner, hot showers and sleeping in a real bed. We’d like to take advantage of the complimentary breakfast they put out each morning but it starts at 6AM and we are committed to being up and gone before then. All three of us pile out the front door into the freezing (4 degrees) pre-dawn and discover someone has parked directly in front of us leaving no room to maneuver out. I envision another Mississippi scenario and decide to take a chance backing up with the Jeep attached. I only have to go about three feet and I crawl as slowly as possible doing it. The Jeep survives, the world doesn’t end and we are Flagstaff bound before the sun is up. We actually may make it!


Dec 23rd

Another day of brilliant sunshine as we drive to increasingly higher altitudes towards northern Arizona. We calculate that we may even be in Flagstaff before dark which will be our first “arrival” in daylight. But I take a wrong turn off of the exit and before we can turn around find the Drury Hotel, it is dark again. We finally find it, turn into the space between the hotel and their parking garage and incredibly, right in front of us, are the promised traffic cones neatly saving us a spot. We’re not in Jersey anymore!

This Drury has a complimentary “appetizer buffet” which would be a full size dinner at any other restaurant. They even include two complimentary mixed drinks or beers,  so we take turns watching Daisy in the room while the other goes down to eat. We fall blissfully asleep before eight in another real bed with the excitement of knowing that barring any unforeseen disasters, we’ll be in California this time tomorrow.

Dec. 24th

Flagstaff seems like a really nice town, as much as we can tell in the dark but slightly warmer (9 degrees) predawn. I take another wrong turn and end up touring the deserted Northern Arizona University campus before getting my bearings back onto Interstate 40 heading west. Leaving Flagstaff, I can see in my surviving driver’s side mirror that the dawn is just beginning on our Christmas Eve, 2013.

Now Mary Ellen begins warning me of all the mountains we are going to encounter before we get to Orange (she has made this trip several times before in a tiny Hyundai to get my daughter out to law school) and although I acknowledge her warnings, I mentally dismiss them. What I didn’t realize was that she was referring to the western side of the mountains, not the ones we’re easily cruising up now.

We’re in almost hourly contact with our kids now who actually seem excited that we’ll be with them for Christmas. They have made reservations for us to attend the Christmas Day buffet in the old First Class Dining Salon on the Queen Mary, permanently anchored in Long Beach.  We are calculating that we are only two hours away from them when we crest the mountain range – and I suddenly understand what Mary Ellen was talking about. Never have I seen such a steep, sustained downhill run that begins in Barstow and heads down to the Los Angeles area.  It doesn’t seem possible that we could have been as high as we were to have such a long steep descent in front of us (not remembering that it actually was a long, gradual ascent from New Mexico; what was a four hundred mile climb up is being squeezed into less than forty miles on the downside.) I urge Mary Ellen to close her eyes as we white-knuckle it down and down, and each time that I think we can’t possibly  go any lower, we round a bend and another roller-coaster like plunge greets us. From having once been a truck driver, I know how to pump the brakes instead of riding them but I’ve forgotten about going  down in the same gear I went up in and now picture us ending up crunched in the gravel of one of the “runaway truck” pull offs. Just when I think the next bend will reveal a grinning Satan welcoming us to hell, it gradually begins to level off and the end is in sight. Interstate 15 south to the San Fernando Freeway, West to Route 57 south and suddenly there is Angel’s Stadium on our left (the kids can walk to the games from their apartment directly behind the stadium.) Off the freeway onto Katella Avenue, we find our RV Park and pull in exactly at 3PM. It’s Christmas Eve and mission accomplished:  I’ve arrived in time for Mary Ellen and me to spend Christmas with our children.

The weather is spectacular, about 75 degrees, zero humidity and a soft breeze blowing under a clear blue sky. It’s not the kind of Christmas weather I’m used to but I’ll take it. I’m too numb to do anything but sit in one of the chairs under the umbrella of the table at our site and think back to all we have been through in the last two months, especially the last five days and wonder how we are still alive, still married and still talking to each other. But we are, the kids arrive (my son bearing a backpack of cold Coors Light in cans) and we are finally together again for the first time in over a year.


They’ve really gone all out decorating the apartment they share, a Christmas tree is set up, and there is enough food wine and beer to supply an army. We eat, drink, laugh like hell, watch a Christmas movie and then collapse in another real bed, Daisy nestled between us. It’s Christmas in California and the world is good.

Dec. 25th

I was so worried about not being dressed properly that I’ve spent $150 on a navy blue blazer to wear to the buffet aboard the Queen Mary. I shouldn’t have worried as I’m one of the few guys wearing one – I keep forgetting that everything out here is “California Casual.” The Dining Room is a high, spectacularly decorated example of the Art Deco era. On one wall is a map of the Atlantic Ocean with a long slot that used to hold a small ship which was moved each day to let the First Class types  know exactly where they currently were in their crossing. The buffet isn’t cheap but the food display is enormous, Mimosas are for the asking and the selection of dishes is huge. I’m a big eater but even I can’t do this place justice; I’ve also volunteered to be the Designated Driver so I get to enjoy watching everyone else getting sloshed on the champagne and orange juice until decency demands that we give up our table. The best part of the Queen Mary is the history of it. Virtually every famous personality of the thirties, forties and fifties was a passenger aboard her and the enclosed promenade deck is lined with life size pictures of all the glitterati that once enjoyed sailing aboard her (as well as the thousands of GIs who were transported aboard her during World War II.) It’s a shame that in order to cross the Atlantic, an experience like the Queen Mary has been replaced with a cramped, uncomfortable, eight hour ordeal  with no food and bitchy metrosexuals as your stewards.

Tomorrow will begin our education into how the RV actually works, ie. how to plug the electricity in properly, how to hook up the water and cable TV, connecting the gray water  and black water (guess what that is) tanks to the sewer lines at each site, how to turn on the stove, the televisions, how to not only use but even flush the toilet, how long you can take a shower before the hot water runs out, operating the washer and dryer, what do you do with your garbage… Yep, we set out on a nearly three thousand mile cross-country trip without knowing any of this. (I hope no experienced RVers are reading this.) But for the rest of the day we’ll head back to the kids’ apartment complex (which looks like a five hundred dollar a day,  south seas,  luxury resort) hang out by the pool, drink, sleep, catch up with our phone messages and emails and just be grateful we accomplished our goal.



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